Wednesday, March 14, 2012

The Disadvantages of Being a Girl

Y'all. I'm really stressed out. And there is not much I can do to elevate said stress. I just have to deal.

In a desperate attempt to work out some of my stress and frustrations, I took to the yoga studio for deep breathing and balancing activities.
 While I did leave yoga feeling more in tune with myself, I didn't work out any of my stressors. Just my luck, I guess.

Since this blog is a representation of myself, sort of a snapshot in time of where I am, I'm going to vent a little bit. And NOT ramble. I just feel like some things need to be said sometimes that we women would usually not say. So here it goes....

It sucks being a girl sometimes. And I usually am proud of my girly ways. But we ladies have a tendency to try to do everything for everyone. And we like to please everyone...therefore making it difficult to please ourselves.

I like everyone to be happy. I like harmony. I like peace. But sometimes all those things I like have hiccups and make me feel insane.

Case in point: I go to school. I do homework. I write. I cook. I clean. I wash clothes. I work. I run. I go to yoga. I'm a friend. I'm a roommate. I'm a girlfriend. I'm a daughter.

I am or do all of those things on a daily basis. And I've been feeling like I'm having a hard time balancing.

It's like I'm walking the tightrope every single day. Just a slip and I will come crashing down.

Now I realize I said I am or do all those things, but being a girl (or I should say being me) I want to do all of those things and be excellent at them. It's my innate ability to want to please people. I can't help it. I'm blue.

The point of this whole post is that I'm only one person. And I write this not to convince you of that fact, but to convince myself. I'm slapping myself in the face, if you will.

I can do it all to some extent, but then something has to give. And I'm not going to give up any of those things I am or do. I guess I just needed to share with you how hard I am on myself.

My name is Ashten....And I'm a perfectionist, people-pleaser and try-to-do-everything-all-the-time-person by nature. It's nice to meet you.


  1. As a fellow blogger/ grad student/ daughter/ girlfriend/ woman I completely get this post... except for the running part, I hate that stuff.

    Anyway, what I'm trying to tell you is I saw you on Arkansas Women's this morning and appreciated your breakfast suggestion and love how your blog keeps it real. Happy Friday.

  2. Thank you, Paige! It's always good to hear that there is someone else out dealing with the same kinds of things I am....So happy you can relate. And I'll continue to keep it real...that's how I roll. :)